- 1 Common Symptoms
- 2 Am I Depressed?
- 3 What Depression is not:
- 4 What is Depression then?
- 5 Why do I get Depression?
- 6 Different types of Depression
- 7 How Depression affects people at different stages of life
- 8 Common triggers of Depression in Punggol / Singapore
- 9 Treatment
- 10 Can I be treated?
- 11 Community Resources
- 12 Suicide
“I have depression.” | “Am I depressed?”
Depression is common in Singapore.
You are likely to have depression if you experience the following symptoms for more than TWO (2) weeks. (Source: DSM 5th) The more symptoms you experience, the more likely you have depression.
- Lousy mood.
- Nearly every day and all the time.
- Other similar feelings: sadness, tearful, hopelessness and feeling empty.
- Lost interest.
- Can’t seem to find pleasure or fun in all or almost ALL activities in the day.
- Commonly seen in our clinics: lost interest in sex, work, hobbies and child care.
- “Nothing seems interesting or fun anymore”
- Can’t seem to find pleasure or fun in all or almost ALL activities in the day.
- Drastic weight change.
- Includes weight loss or weight gain.
- When not intentionally trying to do so, ie through dieting.
- Sleep disturbed.
- Can be sleeping a lot or cannot sleep.
- Very very common in Singapore.
- Often the first complaint seen in our clinics.
- Unusual physical or medical problems.
- Very common in the elderly.
- Can be a mixed bag of symptoms commonly: aches and pains, digestive issues, ear, nose, throat and eye problems, giddiness and headache.
- Normally would have seen many doctors and tried many treatments to no avail.
- “No energy”.
- Severe soul sucking lethargy and tiredness.
- Movements, speaking and sometimes even eating can be slow.
- Feelings of guilt or worthlessness.
- Excessive type where you blame yourself for many things which are beyond your control.
- Ability to work decreased.
- Poor concentration.
- Indecisiveness: severe type: ie. can spend an entire day thinking about whether you should leave your room or whether you should clear the bin.
- Suicide thoughts.
- Thinking and contemplating dying as nothing is worthwhile anymore, and nothing is “working”.
- You might have a plan or no plans yet.
- If you have this symptom: no matter what, don’t waste time reading, please SEEK HELP NOW.
Am I Depressed?
As you can see above, the symptoms are quite a lot and quite common. So, am I depressed? What if I don’t have all the symptoms?
For a start, I highly recommend this TEDed Video.
“What is the difference between sadness and Depression?”
As you can see from the wonderful video above, depression is quite different from the usual sadness.
Depression happens ALL the TIME even when there can be no obvious triggers. It is also much much more severe than the usual sinking sadness that everybody feels time to time. Sadness is very much a normal human emotion.
One way of differentiating sadness and Depression is to use the Beck’s cognitive triad1.
The triad consists of the “self view”, the “world view” and “future view”.
Let’s use an example: Say you lost your job today, and you start to feel sad and that you are possibly incompetent. You sulk for a period of time, but as your bank account nears zero, you start looking for a job again. Before you know it you are back on track on your new job and your sadness lifts as you find yourself useful again.
This is normal sadness.
Ok, say you lost your job today again, and you start to feel sad and that you are possibly incompetent. You start to think that perhaps you have been incompetent your whole life and right from the beginning your were born (“distorted self view”). Then you start thinking that everyone around you is against you, are blaming you and have always been unhappy due to your incompetence (“distorted world view”). As you continue to starve at home and do “nothing”, you feel that the future is bleak as you are so useless anyway (“distorted future view”). Sometimes you even contemplate suicide.
This is NOT normal sadness, this is Depression.
Most importantly, it can be treated.
What Depression is not:
- It is NOT a sign of weakness.
- It is NOT a character flaw.
- You CANNOT talk someone into depression, or for that effect out of depression (unless you are trained properly).
- It is NOT madness.
- It is NOT contagious.
- It is NOT something to be ashamed about.
- It is NOT a punishment from God due to your heavy “sins”.
What is Depression then?
Depression is an illness, much like fever, cough and flu, except that depression is much worse, much more disabling and much more chronic: think stroke, heart attack and renal dialysis. (These diseases are scary as they don’t kill, but they disable)
Although experts do not have a definite answer yet, most of us would agree that depression is an “end result” of many different physical, mental and biological stresses coming together.
So asking someone to “snap out” of Depression is certainly going to work as much as asking someone to “snap out” of his fever for example.
Why do I get Depression?
These are the known risk factors of Depression4:
- Internal Factors
- Tendency for feeling sad
- Low self-esteem
- Early-onset anxiety disorder (younger than 18 years old)
- Past history of major depression
- Parenting factors7
- Parents having a mental illness
- Substance abuse in parents
- Parents with criminal records or incarcerated in jail
- Low parental warmth
- External Factors
- Substance misuse
- Conduct disorder
- Adversity in life
- Trauma (emotional) during childhood or adulthood
- Stressful life events in the past year
- Loss of a parent
- History of divorce
- Marital problems
- Low social support
- Low education
Different types of Depression
- Adjustment Disorder
- Short duration of some of the above symptoms in response to an extremely stressful event.
- Expected to recover after the event passes, if it passes.
- Persistent “chronic” depression.
- Typically takes about 2 years to diagnose.
- Bipolar Disorder
- The depression is part of the cycle between mania and depression.
- Postnatal Depression
- Depression triggered by the burdens of caring for a new born. It affects both genders.
- Chances of postnatal Depression increase if you have experienced psychological difficulties in the past, experiencing marital discord, have little support with child care and experiencing other stresses while caring for the child8.
How Depression affects people at different stages of life
Apart from genetic predisposition, environment factors largely influence the child’s mental health. Children lack the physical ability and mental capacity to fend for themselves, they are largely dependent on their caregivers and circumstances for their physical and mental health.
Severe adversity such as loss of a loving parent or abuse from a caregiver could leave a child confused and traumatized. However, no two child is the same. Some children are more prone to develop mental health condition than others. Once depression sets in, changes in behaviour and daily functioning can be observed by caregivers and teachers.
Increased irritability, anger outbursts, and complaints of pain such as headache and stomachache are commonly seen in children with depression. A sudden drop in school performance and social withdrawal are also commonly observed among depressed children.
Teenage years are punctuated with many roles to negotiate – changing hormone levels, constantly growing physical body, adjustment to new schools, major exams such as PSLE and ‘O’ Levels / ‘N’ Levels, forming new friendships and romantic relationships… to name a few.
In the face of constant changes, unpredictable outcomes and stormy emotions, it is no wonder that many teenagers find it difficult to cope and withdraw socially from time to time. While some could bounce back and fight on, others fall into depression.
If the adolescent’s low mood, irritability, ability to connect with others and academic achievement is severely affected for more than two weeks, it could be a warning sign that depression has crept in.
Adulthood is a time when all the responsibilities arrive at your door step at one go.
Suddenly, you are responsible for the physical and mental well-being of your children, your parents and your partner in a limited time and space (yes Singapore houses are just too small!). While an adult life presents us with challenges in and of themselves, having had a rough childhood ( e.g. having suffered emotional and physical abuse or losses) puts one at a higher risk of depression in adulthood.
Adults with severe depression reports strong and recurrent thoughts of hopelessness, self-blame and self-criticism. Thoughts take on a life of their own, and depressed people are well aware of this phenomenon. Anger is common. It is natural to feel angry with oneself when one cannot muster enough physical and mental strength to accomplish the work that needs to be done. Not having the “energy” to negotiate with and persuade others, a depressed person might find him/herself lashing out at others while all he/she wanted to do was to problem-solve. What follows is more guilt, increased self-blame, harsher self-criticism and another downward spiral into deeper depression.
Many times, depression in elderly is a continuation of the disease since younger ages. While age-related changes and difficulties could lead to a brief period of reactive depression, full-blown depression is often the result of the condition being untreated in younger days.
The golden years also herald the start of many chronic and medical illnesses. A crushing diagnosis of cancer or a terminal illness can bring even the strongest person to his/her knees. It can be very normal to experience reactive depression, which is depression directly due to a medical illness, but it doesn’t mean that it cannot be treated.
“Hassles”9 or small inconveniences in life as been recognised to be related to depression in the elderly as well. Seemingly minor problem can accumulate and the more “hassles” there are, the more likely an elderly will suffer depression especially when the coping mechanism is unhealthy. Here are some of the commonly recognized “hassles”:
- Difficulty with walking and getting around
- Caring for another sick family member
- Physical pains
- Financial issues
- Eyesight and hearing problems
Other than medical illnesses, close friends and family members will also start to pass on and the “survivor” can feel intense loneliness and social isolation, which can in turn predispose to the onset of depression.
Common triggers of Depression in Punggol / Singapore
Punggol is a new town teeming with young working families. Not surprisingly, common triggers of depression our clients have experienced include:
- Marital discord and extramarital affairs.
- Child-birth (for the mum and the father too!).
- Highly-stressful work environment (think: Trainee teachers on practicum, National service, Bankers etc).
- Traumatic childhood experiences that interferes with the ability to form stable and trusting connections as a person enters adulthood.
When we feel totally stuck in this “cloud” of depression, we can easily lose sight of what we really NEED vs what we WANT.
It is often helpful to talk to someone kind and supportive. It can be a friend, a relative, a spiritual mentor or a therapist. Sometimes, we just need someone to see that we are suffering. We see flickers of hope when we have someone to accompany us in this dark time. Sometimes we see solutions through talking. Sometimes the solution is simply to allow ourselves to grief without guilt.
I encourage you to reach out – to yourself and to others. Sadness is a common suffering of humanity. It strikes everyone a few times in our lifetime.
Talk to an agony aunt:
If you happen to be the person putting on this “agony aunt” or “counselor” hat, here are some quick tips:
- Ask them to snap out of it.
- Be judgmental.
- Offer quick judgement or a quick fix, resist the urge to do so as much as possible (why? read on).
- Listen attentively, lean your body forward and maintain eye contact.
- Be sensitive to his/her emotions (not the circumstance).
- Try to refrain from providing “solution”, most of the time (why? You are depriving someone of the joy of learning to overcome and improve themselves).
- Allow your own emotions, like cry if you feel like crying.
- Stay with the emotion.
- Refer him/her on to a trained professional if you think this is too much for you to handle.
You could see a psychologist for therapy. Read this article for more details.
The success rate of treatment with medications for mild to moderate severity illness is about 50-60% no matter which medication is taken10 with a higher success rate the earlier the illness is picked up11.
The doctor might recommend the following types of medications for you:
- Broad class of medications thought to increase the energy levels and lift the mood.
- The experts think that it works on the serotonin pathway in the brain, but the truth is that nobody really knows how exactly it works. For that reason, we also cannot predict exactly who will not respond to them.
- A quick google search will show up a lot of possible side effects. Keep in mind that they are only possible, not definite. Most people do well on these medications with no side effects.
- The doctor must have weighed the benefits and risks before prescribing one to you.
- If you have been prescribed one, please remember that the most important thing is to stay on it.
- It takes some time for the full effects to kick in.
- If you do experience any side effects, the only person you should talk to is the doctor.
- Less commonly prescribed for depression, normally reserved for the more severe patients.
- Again, if this has been prescribed for you, you are highly recommended to stay on it.
- The doctor probably thinks that you are at a significant risk of harming someone/yourself, or being admitted to a hospital, or having a very serious illness.
- Again, please stay on it, and if you do experience any side effects, the only person you should talk to is the doctor.
- “Sleeping Tablets”
- For short term use only to help solve sleep problems.
- Long term use might be associated with addictions.
“Do I need both medication and therapy?”
Just because you might be on a medication or therapy doesn’t mean that you cannot be concurrently on the other. The success rate is highest when both medication and therapy is used together.
Can I be treated?
…. and how long does it take?
We understand that the longer the duration of untreated depression, the stronger the “imprint” and the higher chance of “permanent” injury to your mind and body. Hence the earlier we pick up this problem, the faster the patient can recover. The patient will also require less medications and shorter duration of therapy.
Depression in Singapore is often picked up very late and treatment is started late. It is very sad when it happens and when it happens everyday, it is a tragedy on a societal scale. So please, if you know someone who you suspect could be sick with these symptoms, please ask them to seek help early. Speak to our psychologist or our doctors or can bring them to this *FREE* clinic at scape park.
Websites or readings
Thrive: Khoo Teck Puat Hospital mental health website.
Great patient information leaflet from AAFP about medications.
Find a psychiatrist
You can find one in any government hospital or private practice. Those in government hospitals will require a referral from the polyclinic.
Find a family physician who has interest in psychiatry
Sorry, IMH and AIC has taken the list offline. As of now, our doctor is the only one on this list. We are obtaining consent from the other doctors to be placed here.
Find a psychologist
You could leave us a request for therapy for us to contact you to book an appointment.
Or you could checkout a list of psychologists who join Singapore Psychological Society.
(Wondering what is the difference between a psychiatrist, psychologist, family physician and therapist? Read here)
Find a therapist
*Free* Counselling by Silver Ribbon.
Family Service Centres
Walk in to a *free* clinic in Orchard hosted by CHAT.
Here is a wonderfully inspiring video by them
Join CLUB HEAL and their activities. There is a centre at Bukit Batok.
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If you have 5 minutes in your life, please read this great article. If you don’t, please:
1. Beck’s cognitive triad [Internet]. Wikipedia. 2016 [cited 2016 Dec 16];Available from: https://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Beck%27s_cognitive_triad&oldid=749761453